Grief is a natural part of life when someone we love dies. Finding your way through the changes and often painful emotions that arise during the days, weeks, and months that follow a death can be difficult. You don’t have to do it alone.
The death of someone close can throw us into a sea of chaotic feelings. These emotions may feel relentless and never-ending, then quiet down only to arise months or even years later when we least expect them.
Grief is the natural human response to any loss. It is not a problem but rather a normal, healthy process of healing.
In the period of loss following death, you may feel many conflicting emotions such as sadness, anger, fear and guilt all at the same time. Because of this, grief can sometimes seem intolerable. It is important to recognize that these feelings are normal and will not feel as intense with time, support and the opportunity to talk about your loss. You may experience other people saying things or giving advice that you do not find helpful. Find the people who can listen to you and provide the support that works for you.
Grieving is not done all at once. There is no tidy progression of stages in grief, and its course may be long and circular. Most of us move in and out of grief, alternately feeling the pain and reality of the loss, and then taking time to engage in life’s ongoing tasks. It’s okay to experience pleasure and focus on other things. There is no clear roadmap to grief because each person’s experience is unique. We can help you navigate this painful journey and find your own path to healing. Individual grief support is available for hospice families and any member of our community who is grieving or anticipating the death of a loved one.