Category Archives: Helping children when someone they love is ill

Supporting Children When Someone They Love Has a Serious Illness Part 5 – Guidelines for Teenagers

Part 5 of our 6 part blog series sharing coping tips to help support children when someone they love has a serious illness.  The Teen Years  During the teen years, children are finding their own identity and becoming more independent. They need more privacy and often withdraw from family members.  This process of growing up is harder for them when someone in the family is ill.  They try to balance the family’s needs with their own very different needs.  Teens may show anger as they become more anxious and fearful about the illness. When much of a parent’s time and attention is focused on the sick person, the teen may feel that they are being abandoned and become resentful.  As the ill person gets closer to dying, teens often are able to talk about it and cry as they express their sadness.  They may also become very anxious and worry

Supporting Children When Someone They Love Has a Serious Illness Part 1 – What All Children Need

In honor of National Children’s Grief Awareness Day, we’ll be posting a 6 part blog series from our anticipatory grief booklet to help support children by sharing coping tips. Everyone in a family is affected when one family member has a serious illness.   All are dealing with the unknown and must use strengths they didn’t even know they had. Most of us haven’t been taught how to manage when someone we love is very ill, let alone how to support children and teens during this time.  Yet time and again, parents and caregivers find the strength within themselves and learn new coping and parenting skills along the way. Our blog series describes how a child’s age affects the way they understand and react to changes in the sick person, in you, and in themselves.  In addition, it offers suggestions about how to talk with your children and ways to